Friday, October 26, 2012

Shame on me for the length of time that it's taken for me to blog again but everything is going well with my hair. I haven't had a relaxer in it since March 27, 2012 and I am still on the one and only keratin treatment that I've received from Steven Deer. I love it. My hair has gotten wet and I've just used a flat iron to straighten it. Still, I'm getting used to the texture.It doesn't lie straight like it did with the relaxer for so many years. It's got more body. It definitely looks healthier. So many people have commented on that. So I haven't included any new pictures because it doesn't really look like it's longer even though it is. WHen it draws up, it looks a shorter. But it's doing well and I'm loving it.

I suspect that it's about to act out now because I'm about to do a detox with nutritionist Danielle DeCelles. I'll be drinking lots of shakes/drinks for a week. Looking at the ingredients, it includes a lot of vitamins and minerals, many of which are known to be good for hair, skin and nails. It's on. Between that, exercising more and trying to get better sleep, we'll see the changes in my hair, skin and nails. My nails are already doing pretty well. I'll attribute that partially to the Vivascal that I've been taking, which is great for hair and nails. I've been drinking more water, too. 64 oz daily. Now, get rid of the harmful meat, sugar and glutens and I'll be in the mix! It won't be easy but it will be healthier and that's what I'm going for. So, more to come. I start the detox on October 29 as I come back from Pastor Robert Biekman's wedding to Pastor Kathryn Cook. The detoz lasts for a week but I will be changing my diet after that, too. I'm ready. Need to do something different to get different results! Can't wait to share them with you all!

Sunday, August 26, 2012

Well, it's been a while since I've written. I'm still in transition but have done what some would consider cheating - I got a keratin treatment! Yes, I gave in! My hair was looking crazy after a particularly tough work out once and I realized that I needed something to get me through this. Well, it's probably one of the best things that I could have done! My hair moves as if I had a perm but I have this treatment and it will last for 2 - 5 months! If I want to wear it straight, I can. If I want to wear it curly, I can. I love the versatility that it allows me! It's so cool! Here are some pictures of it above, post keratin. I love it! I'm still growing it out but we had to trim it a little to keep it neat. A little color and a cellophane and my hair is good as new! Let the grow out REALLY begin!

But wait, there's more. I noticed some thinning in the hairline and temples and a little patch in the back of my hair. Well, I have never worn braids and haven't had a relaxer since March 23, 2012 so I don't know what was causing that. I went to  the dermatologist and they did a blood test. I get the results on August 30. Now, I'm no doctor and we probably have too much information on  the internet but the hair loss, plus nails separating from the nail bed, dark undereye circles and sparse eyebrows makes me wonder if I'm suffering from hypothyroidism. I will know soon. If so, then I'll be on some medication that will help with energy and other things. I mention it, though, because it will help with hair growth if what's causing it to be dry and challenged is resolved.

This made me really look at myself. My diet and other habits. I'm eating poorly, not getting enough rest, etc. I've got to make some changes. There were two things that I saw this weekend that made me finalize that call. One was checking out www.jenniferturner.com. Jennifer is the little sister of my friend and soror, Christal Turner. I remember when we took dance lessons together at Mayfair Academy in Chicago. Jennifer was Christal's little sister who used to crack me up because she wanted "canny" (candy). Well, little Jennifer went on to be an accomplished violinist and did extremely well in school, having gone to Penn for undergrad and Stanford for her MBA. So, she graduated and has done well in media but what I didn't know is that she's an accomplished fitness expert who has run marathons and triathlons. Look at her website. She looks stunning!

Then Mike and I hung out in Michigan City this weekend and I bought a couple of health magazines (magazines are my weakness). One of them showed a woman who looks years young because of changing her health and beauty habits. Some of what she was dealing with had to do with thyroid issues (droopy eyelids, sparse brows, dry skin). The woman who wrote the article, Kat James, broken down what was causing some of her other issues, i.e. facial puffiness, under eye circles, acne, rosacea, wrinkles and dark spots. Fascinating. Kat James has a website, www.informedbeauty.com, as well as a best selling book, The Truth About Beauty, which I have ordered, of course. Bottom line, I'm changing these eating habits. Between that, the wonderful skincare products that I'm using through Soul Purpose and the hair care that I'm getting from Steven Deer, I am making some wonderful changes in my life! Oh, and don't forget the exercise! I'm getting back into my yoga habit and went for a run/walk (okay, far more walking than running) today to get the blood circulating.

More to come but I see myself looking and feeling FIERCE over the next few months! Can't wait to share all of that with you!


Monday, August 6, 2012

Okay. I guess that you could say that I cheated a little bit. I got the keratin treatment. I was so opposed to it because of what I read about the fact that the aldehyde can become formaldehyde when it's heated but I ended up doing it for two reasons. 1), I would only get it every 2 - 5 months, 2) it's approved by the FDA so it's supposed to be somewhat safe (I guess it depends on how much you trust the FDA as to whether that means anything or not and 3) (I know, I only said a couple of things), my hair is so manageable! It feels so silky and it moves! I love it! When the perm grows out, I'll go between wearing it natural and wearing it straight. I have that option with a keratin treatment. So I'm excited.

So, now I'll share the names of the hairdressers that I visited and my thoughts about them. I'll also advise what my final decision has become regarding who will be doing my hair (I feel a little bit like LeBron James announcing where he was going to go when he went to Miami. No hour long television special for me, though.)

As you recall, my last perm was March 23, 2012. I decided to give new stylists a try around the time that we hosted the NATO summit in Chicago so I believe that it was in either April or May. Here is the run down of hairdressers that I have visited since then:

1) Laws Concept, Bronzeville: I forgot the stylist's name who I visited. It was relatively early in my transition and I decided to give them a try because they were listed as a salon that does natural hair in Yelp. She was pretty good. It took a long time to get my hair done because she was doing a couple of heads at once. I saw her working so I couldn't get mad at her but I had been blown dry and just had to sit there. My hair looked good but it didn't totally wow me. I wasn't impressed enough to go back but I wouldn't put her down, though. She's good. Nice salon, easy parking on the street.

2) 10 Shade Glam Salon, Beverly: I went to Alecia several times. My girlfriend Cheryl turned me on to them because Alecia did her twist out when she cut out her perm. I also liked that it was easy to make appointments online with them and I was impressed with the website. Alecia is sweet as can be. If I was wearing braids or was just doing a twist out, then I would go back. But I'm still wearing it straight for the time being and she didn't do a good job with the styling at all. In fact, I had to leave out of the salon and styled it in my car before heading home.  Her conditioning was good and she's knowledgable about hair. I let her color my hair. It was a little too dark for me (I'm too old for black) but it covered the gray, which is what I wanted. The day that I figured would be my last was when she colored it and I needed a trim. It was clearly uneven on one side. Well, she blew my hair dry and was beginning to curl it. I reminded her of the trim and she picked up the shears, did a few little clips here or there and then curled it. The dead part on one side was still there! Now, the length was enough where I could pull it behind my ears but it looked bad and I paid the full amount for a cut. I can't recommend her if you want a straight style and a good cut but she'll rock your braids and twist outs. Nice salon but small. Parking was easy (on the street).

3) AJES, West Loop: I went to a guy there named Iyon. He was really personable and knowledgeable about hair. Really engaging. I went to him in the case of an emergency because Alecia had to cancel at the last minute because of an air conditioning problem in the salon. I appreciated the call. It would have been sweltering in there. Anyway, I called AJES and they were able to get me in the same day. Iyon washed it and put a little conditioner in there (I needed a deep conditioner but it was the first time that he saw my hair). He got it straight for me and looked at it and said that it needed to be evened out. So, have at it he did! He did a lot of chopping but I needed it to get the dead ends off (and to make up for the sloppy cut job that Alecia did). My hair was gorgeous when I was done! He knows how to cut and style. But, when I was done, I had to pay him $75 for the blow dry and $55 for the cut - a cool $130. Now, it looked good but I can't sustain paying that much. Even though I wouldn't get a cut every two weeks, I would need a deep conditioner. Don't know how much that would cost. And it's funny but someone pointed out that it was interesting that he was able to take me within 4 hours. Not much clientele. For someone who has been dong hair as long as he has been, he should have more. Hm. Maybe it was because it was a Wednesday. Who knows. Either way, he's good and I would recommend him if you can afford it. The salon is very pretty and parking was easy (on the street).

4) Canvas Salon, River North: I went to the owner, Steven Deer. I was referred to him by my girlfriend Jody. She's had a keratin for a couple of years, at least, and her hair is always laid. I was hesitant but finally decided to go because I needed someone who would care for it. He is open 7 days a week and took me on a Sunday. OMG! That was the bomb! It was amazingly easy to park in that area. He walked me through everything he was doing and even gave me a color (brown) to cover my gray. Now this is more natural looking to me. Because you have to wear your hair straight with the keratin for a couple of days, he blew it out and gave a little trim to clean it up. No charge. And I'm going back tomorrow morning for the follow up - wash and blow. I loved his customer service and the salon is very comfortable. He is moving from it because it's a basement salon so he's had floods in it but where he's moving is only around the corner and there's free street parking there. I was equally impressed when I saw someone in there with whom I've been acquainted for a while. I have always admired her hair and I come to find out that she has been going to Steven for years! I felt encouraged!


5) Toss Salon, South Loop: I would be remiss if I didn't include Toss because I have gone to Robert for 16 years. He does an incredible job with hair. Long, short, color - whatever! I know that my hair is going to be fly when I go to him! He knows how to cut and he cares for the hair. I could be wrong but, in my tenure of going to the salon, I haven't seen him do a lot of natural hair. He advised me, in fact, that he charges extra to do it because it takes longer to work it. And he doesn't do keratin treatments because he doesn't believe in them. He feels that you should just get a relaxer if you want your hair to be straight. If it's done right, you shouldn't have any problems. Well, I didn't go to hair school so I am not an expert on this but the little bit that I have been reading advised that a relaxer changes the structure of your hair permanently (thus, the need to either grow or cut it out) while the keratin doesn't change the texture but merely adds keratin to the hair. Now, I'm not naive. There's probably something else in there but I don"t know about it. And those who I have seen with it have experience great hair growth and healthy hair. So I think that it's worth a try. Anyway, the salon is awesome (you can buy cutes clothes and purses in there while you get your hair done). Parking is rough on the street but there's a lot around the corner and they do valet in the salon. So, it's good.

So, the moment for which you've all been waiting. Where will I be going? Drum roll please!


I have decided to take my hair to Canvas Salon in River North (soon to be called Steven Deer again). The hours are convenient, Steven knows how to do natural hair and it's easy to park around there. Now, I do have to travel a little further to get there but I can deal with it, especially if it's on a Sunday. I used to go to Ernest Collins on Oak Street and Mario Tricoci when it was on Ontario so I've dealt with the parking and all the other stuff that came with being in those areas. It's very hard to say good bye. Especially when you're someone who's loyal to a fault like me but I feel that this is best for me at this time in my life and transition.

I'll continue to show the growth each month but you'll see it with the keratin in it mostly now.

Ta ta for now!


Tuesday, July 31, 2012

Funny how something can be in front of your eyes but you don't pay attention to it. As mentioned, I don't want to give away the secrets in the book that I mentioned regarding growing your hair long but let me just say that many of the ingredients that she mentions in one of the secrets can be found in the Soul Purpose Hair Butter. It's easier to use and smells much better. So, I'll be using what I already have, thank you very much! And, oh yes. The Soul Purpose Nurture Skincare Line will be out by August 7. OMG! I can't wait. Finally, I signed up for yoga classes at Chaturanga Yoga in Hyde Park and I went to the gym to work out yesterday. So, am I trying to make positive changes in my life? You bet! All of this will lead to better results not just in my hair but also in my skin, nails, body, spirit, etc.

Onward and upward!

Monday, July 30, 2012

Well. 4 months and counting. I admit that I've had some set backs that have been discouraging but I'm going to keep my chin up and keep on moving forward. I've shown you the unevenness of my hair in an earlier photo. Well, I had to take the chop to get it in better shape so I feel like I've gone backwards in terms of the length but the cut looks good and I'll be able to grow it better so it will be where I want it to be soon. I'm starting the 6 month challenge so I've got to get my health and everything else in place. Massage the scalp, take my vitamins, exercise and relieve stress. I'm going to go sign up for yoga today and will be hitting the health club, too. Can't play around. I have a picture of myself (I'll attach it) where my hair looks =crazy and I look like I'm 3 months pregnant because my abs are so out of control. Nothing will get better if I don't make some changes so I'm doing them now. The Soul Purpose skin care line is coming out shortly and that will help with my skin. Can't wait. It'll feel like the new me after being disciplined and working out!


This is he picture with my godson, Romero, that made me see that I need to make some changes. The hat is to hide my hair. You can see my belly.





These are pictures of my hair from the front after I got it cut again. It's cute. Just shorter than planned. Much more even now, though.




Now this is the back of my hair. Very full after 4 months without a perm. Again, shorter than desired (although we've had a hot summer so it's been a bit of a relief). I'll take pictures each month to show the progress. Count this as month 1!

Tuesday, July 17, 2012

Well, I have bought the book, Grow It Long! I like it! Great information. Very poor editing. Blatant typos. But, if you can get beyond those, then the information provided in invaluable. It's great for everyone and it will help not only the hair but the rest of the body, too. There is a 6 month challenge in it. Grow your hair 6 inches in 6 months. I'm on it! No worries. Between following the advice in the book, exercising, using my Soul Purpose skin care line (as soon as it comes out) and everything else, I'm going to look like a new person! Can't wait!

And...I'm getting the Design Essential Strengthening System in my hair next week! Can't wait! It will make my hair stronger and more manageable. With the active ingredient being cysteine amino acid (which is a part of protein), I can't wait to get it! It will definitely help because the hair is just protein!

I'll start the count for the 6 months after I get the system in my hair. In the meantime, here's a look at my hair and nails. I decided not to cheat. My hair isn't the best that it's looked but I have to show it to you so that you can truly see the before and after:



While my nails are getting better, you can clearly see the unevenness and breakage on one side of my head. We're going to have to even that out (yuck! More cutting!). Then it's on to sets and other alternative hairstyles to take care of my hair while it's growing out. Well, at least I can say that I haven't had to do the big chop! July 23 will be 4 months without the perm! I'm on my way!

Wednesday, July 11, 2012

Hey there! Nothing really big to report. I'm still in the transition. Not giving up! I'm approaching month 4. July 23 will be the date, in fact. More shedding, some breaking. It just looks rough! I tried to wash it myself the other night and I looked like the Heat Miser! That's done. I have an appointment to get my hair done on Saturday. I'm going to ask for the twist out (braiding it, letting it dry and then unravelling the braids). My hair looked good when I did it like that when my hair was longer so it will probably be pretty cute with it being a little bit shorter. I know that I'll get through this but I've made up my mind on a couple of things:

1) I will try the Design Essentials Strengthening System as soon as the young lady starts offering it. She advised that she will be offering it soon. I'm hoping that it will be this summer, i.e before the end of the month. Not sure how much longer I can go with my hair like this. Basically, it works like a keratin treatment without the harmful formaldehyde because the active ingredient is cysteine amino acid, which is part of what makes up the hair, anyway. It makes the hair smooth and silky when you blow it dry but still allows for some curl when you want to where it naturally. And, perhaps best of all, it washes out after 3 months so, if you don't like it, you don't have to go back to it. So I wouldn't have to go through the transition again.

2) I am going to get this book called Grow It Long. There are a lot of books and other information out there about going natural. This one seems to take it and advises on how to help it grow healthy, too. It's currently at my nape. By this time next year, I'm hoping that it will be at least at my shoulders if not beyond. I'm going to see if I can get it to bra length. It's been there before but it seems like it gets there and then starts breaking - probably because the hair has had perm for so long. So I can only imagine how healthy it will be without perm!

I'm not giving up! I'm still moving forward. I'll take pictures after I get it done this weekend. Pictures each month, in fact, to show the growth!

Wednesday, June 13, 2012

Well, I'm still in the transition. I've had a lot of breakage and shedding so we had to cut off about an inch today. I'm still determined to transition without the big chop, though. I believe that I will need to wash and condition my hair more than I used to. That's okay. I now that I will have my long hair back and it will be healthier than ever. Sometimes, you have to get rid of the old to get the new. It's coming. In the meantime, at least the dead ends are gone. June 23 will be 3 months without the touch up. Here we go!

Thursday, May 24, 2012

Well, yesterday marked 2 months without putting any new relaxer on my head! So far, I'm making it okay. I need a trim so my hair isn't holding any style well but it's not so bad for now. Now, I realize that I still have a lot further to go in this journey. My hair feels dry and I have to laugh because it's probably in shock without new relaxer in it but I'm happy. I know that this relatively short period of time of transition will yield years of healthy and happy hair! I have been hearing a lot about Deign Essentials for the hair. I bought some Carol's Daughter cream moisturizer. Maybe I put too much in my hair but it make it feel a little oily. Not blaming the product, just the user!

Now, for my nails. Another journey. I was told about Nail Life which can be purchased at Sally's. I'm going to use hat and will keep my nails shorter. Here are a couple of pictures of them. Brace yourselves:



The first has what appears like some white film over the nails. That's simply the product (No Chip stuff) that couldn't be totally taken off The next picture shows my nails with the Nail Life on them. It's like a clear polish. The good thing is that you can see the new growth toward the bottom of my nail beds so it's only a matter of time before my nails are strong and healthy. Until then, they need the TLC.

Now, for the skin care. I can't WAIT until our SOul PUrpose skincare line comes out! It'll start shipping next month. Many of the products are based in Vitamin C. We also have other awesome products in it, like the Rose Water and Glycerin elixir. I just can't wait. The Caudulie products that I have been using are almost out and I'm not buying another thing until my skincare comes from SOul PUrpose! Ooh, I love this company!

Friday, May 11, 2012

Moving Right Along

March 23, 2012. I have that day written down as a significant day, although I wasn't aware of it when it occurred. That was the last time that I received a touch up. I went back to get my hair done last weekend and advised that I only wanted color. I also got a deep conditioner but now relaxer. So we're moving on! Here's a picture of my hair the day after it was done:




Looking healthy and shiny! My hairdresser was pleased with the fact that he was able to get it fairly straight. Of course, there isn't much new growth yet so I haven't even really begun the journey yet. Well he hasn't either, I suppose. So, we'll go through this together. I've got back ups, just in case, though. I am enjoying talking with people about their experiences. I feel like I've joined a new family, in a way. And my appetite for information on transitioning the hair and natural hair care if insatiable!

For the record, I have the names of several places that can do "natural" hair to get it pretty straight, if you are looking for a straight hairstyle. They are:

1) Maxine's on Rush: Quiana or Michelle. Supposed to be good but prices are high.
2) Bella Mia, South Loop: Don't recall the stylist's name but she's supposed to be pretty good.
3) Nina's, Matteson
4) Yehia, various locations: I'm concerned about the amount of heat that they use. They also use Brazilian straighteners but I'm concerned with the formaldehyde in it.
5) Law's Concept, Bronzeville
6) AJES, West Loop: Known for doing natural hair but high prices
7) Toss, South Loop: Of course I'm going to mention them because I've been with Robert since 1996! I don't know if he does a lot of natural hair but I know that John does (straight styles) as does another women in there who does dreads and twists.

I've also read that Carol's Daughter has a new line of shampoos and conditioners that are good for hair in transition. May check it out!

Now, the nails! I feel liberated, of sorts! I removed the no-chip manicure. Verdict: I LOVE how it makes my nails look but I can't keep it on too long. Makes the nails weak. Here's how they look right now:


I'll keep on getting regular manicures to help to build them back up but I'm probably going to check out salons that specialize in natural nail care.

Onward and upward!

Wednesday, May 2, 2012

Wow! I have to laugh because it looks like I end up writing on my blog for a little bit and then put it down for a year before picking it up again. Life happens. Conflicting priorities, etc. Either way, here it is, almost a year later, and I'm writing again! LOL!

It's a little bit different from the last time. I was trying to journal a bit but not with a purpose. More so, to just express thoughts. Now, I'm on a mission. I'm still trying to muster the courage to maintain the commitment to this but I'm going to do it, some way. My "mission" is to move more towards the natural. What do I mean? No I'm not going all the way, giving up everything synthetic. In today's age, it's a bit difficult to avoid that. But I am being more conscientious about some things and that does call for change from some of the "processing" that I have endured for so long.


So, here's a picture of me that was taken around 4:00 pm today. Not particularly my most shining moment. I look worn out. My hair looks crazy, skin is dull and lifeless. Nails look like claws. No, I'm not being hard on myself. I'm just being real and recognizing the need for change. So, that's what's going to happen. Change is a-coming.

First, I have decided to grow the perm out of my hair. The relaxer has taken it's toll and I have breakage in various spots. It's a hard call because I've had a relaxer for so many years (30+) but I'm seeing people who I know who have grown their relaxers out and their hair looks so healthy. It's maintenance but I know that it will be worth it when I can get through it. Now, I'm not a totally natural gal. I still intend on wearing straight hairstyles. I don't see myself in braids, twists or dreadlocks (although I find nothing wrong with those dos). They simply aren't my style. But there are hair stylists who specialize in styling hair without relaxers and it looks like the people have relaxers after they are done! I'm going to see if my hairdresser will work it without breaking my checkbook! Otherwise, I have done some research and found the names of some others who specialize in this. So I've got options. Oh, and I will be coloring the gray! Not ready to sport it yet! I have been using a cellophane. We'll see if that will work on the gray without a relaxer.

Second, I have been getting a "no chip" manicure since the beginning of the year. While I love how it looks, I've decided to go back to my natural nails. Thus the reason why I'm showing them now. Because they will look very different within the next couple of weeks.

Third, I will be using the Soul Purpose skin care line as soon as it comes out in June. The one for normal to oily skin has a Vitamin C cream in it which will help with my complexion. And we will have a gentle fade cream in the collection which will help with the dark spots. I'll still use medication from the dermatologist until my skin is back in order but I will be using the other products to help with this in the meantime. And I have started my mission to drink 64 oz of water a day, which will work wonders on the skin.

So, between all of this, eating better, getting rest and exercising, I should look much better! Easier said than done. That's why I call this a journey. My blog will highlight my challenges and triumphs as I make my way through!

Can't wait to keep you filled in on it all!